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Tuesday, March 8, 2011

Why I Take Long Showers...

I know it's bad to use all of my city's water resources.  I understand that they're charging me for it too.  And I know it's probably rather harsh on my skin.  But I don't care.  I love a long, hot shower.  I've worked out a system of leaving Callen (happy and playing) in the play-pen with Preston nearby watching cartoons, so that I can take some time to get ready.  I rush through the tooth-brushing, the hair styling, the getting dressed, but I won't rush through the shower.  It's the one part of my day when it's quiet and I get to be alone.  I have been trying (ok, meaning...) to get up early enough to have some me-time before the kids wake up, but so far... no such luck.  So that shower is pretty darn important!

I grew up as an only child, so I was used to being on my own.  I don't mind being alone...I like the peace and quiet.  Cue husband, then kid, then second kid.  Well, I still got alone time when I was working after Preston was born, because I got to drive to work.  Even just that little bit of time in the car by myself... EVEN if I was sitting in traffic... was exactly what I needed.  But now, with kid #2 and my stay-at-home status, there is no  such thing as me-time.  There are rarely car rides that don't involve a certain 5-year-old asking "why?" or "what if?" during the entirety of the trip.  At home there is always a kiddo who needs something, even if it's just to be held and good grief, do you know how difficult it is to get them to nap at the same time?   Down right impossible! It's constant talking, herding, soothing, scolding, running around and ... togetherness.  Obviously, I love my children.  I love being home with them.  I love being able to homeschool and be here as they're growing up.  Obviously, I love my husband and spending time with him just as much.  Trust me, I'm not complaining.  At all.  I am ridiculously blessed beyond reason.  I'm simply explaining why I will, unashamedly, take a 20-minute, scalding hot shower!  Are you reading this, husband?  I know  that on the weekends, you are probably wondering where I've disappeared to.  It's the shower.

When I'm in there I can let my brain wander.  Or, I can let it shut off for a few minutes.  I can just stand there, breathing in the steam, and be.  Just be.  There's almost always a moment when I'm all, "Ok, I'm clean, I should get out," but I don't.  I just.keep.standing.there.  It's refreshing, it's relaxing, it's QUIET!  It's MINE.  You hear me?  MINE!!!  Do.Not.Disturb.

There is the rare occasion that Preston will open that bathroom door and bug me every two minutes, until it proves useless to even try to enjoy it.  Or, maybe Callen isn't going to nap or play quietly for long enough... I won't push my luck.  So, it doesn't always work.  But for the most part... that long, hot shower is what keeps me able to spend the rest of my day wrestling with two rowdy boys.  That... and a giant cup of coffee (or two) every morning.  Have I told you how much I like coffee?  Coffee... and a shower, that's all I need.

P.S. It took two days to write this post, because every 5 minutes my children needed something or got a boo-boo or were fighting over a toy  And in fact, in the moments it took to write that last paragraph, Callen made his way into the kitchen, pulled down all of the homeschool folders and boxes from the shelf and made quite a mess. 
It's a good thing he's so cute!
 Do you think two long, hot showers in one day would be pushing it?  I mean, really?

9 comments:

Joanne said...

You just described my life (okay, except for the homeschooling thing). My showers usually last until the hot water gives out. So glad I'm not the only one!

Randi said...

I am the same way!! I LOVE a long HOT shower!

Paygethepirate said...

I am the same way. Sometimes I try to turn my shower in to a hot bath! That has only worked when chris is home like 3 or 4 times but, man. I feel so wonderful during it.

Daily Equipment Offerings said...

I always get a kick out of reading you, Jade. One time when leaving Liberia I was asked what I missed the most from the US. I said, "A hot shower." The person then asked me why Americans always say that. If you have to explain...

Regina Nicole said...

I was just telling my mom today: I always wanted to be a mom until I realized what it took to be a wife. Coupled with this post, I think I can wait a little longer to have kids!!

Jill said...

I don't know how to take a quick shower, so I've been told. And since I don't have little kids at home anymore -- I've no good excuse! Guess you're in good company, Jade. ;)

Take The Cake Decorating said...

For me, the shower is more of a burden. It's something I have to do that takes my time from me. I would much rather be taking quiet time swinging on the front porch or hiding in bed reading a good book. But they always find me. ;)

Stephanie Stephens said...

I'm not a huge fan of super hot showers...I will however sit in my car with the heater on full blast for a good 15 minutes sometimes whenI get home from work. I'm just too comfortable to move. I don't have children, but I do have a very needy cat that has already messed up this comment twice by walking across the keyboard trying to get my attention. I'm having to type this up one handed so that I can pet him with the other hand and keep him occupied away from my computer. haha. Alone time is nice.

Lil' Momma @ Five in Training for HIM said...

Found your blog during a random search and as I am reading this post thinking, OH I dream of a nice LONG HOT QUIET Shower! I have a 2 year old that thinks that he needs to help me in the shower. If he is not allowed to at least sit on the stool by the sink he will sit outside the bathroom door and cry and cry . I have to sneak my showers when he is outside playing w/ his older brother or in a deep sleep. I know my day will come and when it does I will be like you. DO NOT DISTURB!
Great post. :^)